When it comes to your baby, you simply want the best. However, one of the hardest things to do can be to soothe a fussy baby. Colic is often blamed for a seemingly unsoothable baby but there could be other factors at work as well. One thing is certain – you may find you want to pull your hair out as you try one thing after another to make your baby happy.
Help Me! My Baby Won’t Stop Crying!
It’s the hardest thing in the world for a new mother. The baby will not stop fussing, no matter what you try. First of all, take a deep breath. This is not a reflection on you as a mother, no matter how much you might think so. Your hormones are still flying wildly around in all directions and you are probably exhausted as well. The more upset you are, the more upset your baby will be too. Place the baby in a safe place, such as the crib or a bouncer and walk away for a few minutes. It won’t hurt your baby to cry for a few moments while you gather your wits about you.
Now, when you return, think about what might be causing your baby to fuss. Go through the normal list first: dirty diaper, hungry, wants attention. If these are not the problem, then it’s time to start thinking about other issues.
Is It Colic?
Colic actually has a couple of definitions, depending on who you talk to. Many describe it as gas and pain in the abdomen, but other parents use the term to refer to hours of nonstop crying from their baby. Whatever the term, it’s an issue that can be treated naturally. Consider a bath with a couple of drops of lavender oil, as this is very soothing. A small amount of peppermint or chamomile infusion in a bottle can ease gas pains and abdominal discomfort. A warm (not hot!) water bottle wrapped in a towel may ease pain and placed on the baby’s tummy, as well.
Is It the Baby’s Formula?
Sometimes, a baby’s formula may be part of the problem. More and more pediatricians are turning to alternative formulas that contain soy or goat’s milk. If your baby is constipated, a very small amount of molasses in the baby bottle will help. Your baby’s doctor will be able to advise you on how much.
Is It a Protective Parent?
One old wives’ tale often told to new mothers was “not to hold the baby too much. If you do, you will spoil the baby and it will want to be held all the time.” It’s now been proven scientifically that babies who are held, smiled at, and sang to are often much more content than those that are not held to avoid “spoiling the baby.” It’s okay to be a protective parent. It’s okay to hold your baby. However, if you are upset, it’s best to lay the baby down and take a moment for yourself. Otherwise, your baby will sense your distress and fuss even more. Let’s face it – some babies are simply “high needs babies.” They may require more attention than other babies the same age. Don’t worry. It simply will not last forever!
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Strange Ideas that Often Work
Every mother of a toddler will have a story to tell you about something that helped soothe their child as a baby. Some will take their baby for a car ride. Others will run the vacuum cleaner. Still others will place the baby and the bouncer on the washer while it is spinning (don’t ever walk away with your baby on top of a washer! It can vibrate the bouncer off onto the floor.) One new mother swore by a certain rock and roll song! After you have eliminated a potential health concern, such as gas, constipation, or lactose intolerance, you will have to focus on something that is actually soothing. The key is to try different things until you find something that works, no matter how odd it sounds.
If Nothing Works, Call Your Doctor
If you have tried everything and nothing seems to soothe your baby, it’s time to call the doctor. This will also help alleviate your worries that something is medically wrong. If you would prefer to use natural treatments to soothe your baby, tell the pediatrician. Most will offer advice that can be taken to heart.
In Closing
While it may be hard to even consider now, know that your baby will not always be this way. If you have a trusted friend or relative, have them sit with your baby for a couple of hours. Get out of the house or take a nap. You must ensure that you take care of yourself, as well as the baby. You know, a nice warm lavender bath might be nice for you as well!
